In the hands of a parent, a child's future is determined. Things originally formed from the family. Starting in terms of personality, socialization, self-control, adjustment to the surroundings, the ability to think, and anything else that contributed to the success and independence of a child. Including their success as parents later. Tips that can be used by parents who both work / one does not work, in order to take advantage of limited time with children in an effective and efficient, among others, as follows:
1. Know your child
Every child has a different character. Therefore, methods used in educating and guiding them must be in accordance with the character of children. Do not force the child to undergo a character that was not hers. Recognize also the child's feelings if he is experiencing problems. This can be done to empathize with the child. And do not forget to recognize the child's development according to age.
2. Appreciate if they behave well
Every parent should appreciate good behavior by the child, and punish him as little as possible. Give praise when the child is entitled to get it, do not be postponed. But do not wait until they do something special. Parents should give children something fun on a regular basis. For example, by giving something he likes if he has done his job well.
3. Involve your child to participate
Involve them in making decisions / activities held by the family. Examples involve children in everyday tasks (adjust with their age), involve them in planning a family vacation, and others.
4. Put yourself to the child
Use every time you have to get closer to the child. Examples are on the way when it gets stuck, you can make themselves available to talk more. Usually children are more open in such a situation. Accompany them while watching. Instill good values and important, tell them the values of poor and unimportant. Give special time alone with children. If you have more than one child, then spend time in turn. Do not forget to use the most of family time.
5. Enforce discipline
Do not silence the child if he does something wrong / not good. Discipline is very important to apply because the child has to know which ones should and should not be done. The recommended way to enforce discipline is to time out and grounded. Time out is a step in silencing the child, and did not give any reaction in children. This act shall be granted on responses from parents on the child's behavior is not desired. Can be done by parents out of the room, the child was in the room, or the child kept away from its activities. While grounded is an attitude in which the child is required to complete a task in order to get his wish. This discipline must be done consistently and should always be based on the child's behavior. If children do the same rush, the same disciplinary techniques should be applied. But parents should not directly penalize the child for the first time doing bad behavior, and have never been told before that it is bad behavior. The same disciplinary techniques should be applied also by the people at home when parents are not there.
6. Being a role model for children
Children imitate each other people do, especially their parents. Children learn how to react to things from his observations on the behavior of parents. Therefore, you as parents need to be a good example for children.
7. Say you love them
Compassion must be disclosed in any action, either by hugging / kissing, fondling, the words "mommy / daddy love you", and say directly to them. When you do these things, better parents make direct contact by looking into his eyes. And if you want to give orders, to do with specific, horrible for kids to do. Most parents give orders that are too general, so that the children puzzled. Avoid yelling, screaming, or preach at length to the child.
8. Solve a problem when the head is cold
The problem is not resolved better when angry. This is so if it is done it will make things worse. Anger makes your low self control, so it is very possible the things that do not want to be followed by the children imitated. Especially if you get the words out of painful and lasting. Calm yourself first.
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