Should kids move out the parent's house at the early age ?

There is no set age at which grown children should move out of their parent's/parents' home. Although, of course, moving out is something that is healthy and normal for most young adults, the age at which a person does this often depends on the emotional and financial readiness of the young adult, as well as on the parents and the child's relationship with those parents.

In a minority of situations, there are troubled families in which teens and parents not only don't get along, but create a truly unhealthy situation for all involved. These are circumstances under which agencies working with minor children may get involved and even recommend other living arrangements for the teen.

Maybe here is some reasons a parent may wish a child to move on :

1. Some parents feel that they have met their direct parenting responsibilities and they wish to enjoy their home together, just the two of them;

2. Some children may not wish to abide by the rules and standards of the parents' home and frequently challenge them, causing "debate" and contention;

3. Some children fail to sufficiently share in the expenses of the parents' home while living there, nor the basic responsibilities of maintaining the home, i.e., cleaning throughout, preparing meals for everyone in the household from time to time, doing the family laundry. In other words the child may have grown up to be mostly a "taker", not a "giver".

4. Some parents realize that it is not in the long-term best interests of the child to continue permission to abide in the home. That is, believing that it is time for him/her to get out into the real world, fend for him/herself and become an adult. A normal, non-selfish and properly raised child would look forward to getting out on his/her own with pride.

There are all kinds of reasons good parents may encourage or, as you put it, "force" a young adult to move on in his/her life. Perhaps, one day, you'll become a parent yourself and will understand what is required of proper child rearing.

As a parent here is some tips to get your children ready to move out :
1. Assess the situation as objectively as possible.
    -    Make a list of the reasons you want your child to move out.
    -    Consider whether there is a real reason your child cannot live on his/her own.
    -    Show a united front.

2. Ask your child if s/he wants to move out.
What you want to do is address the verbalized reasons (which, in many cases - but not all - are excuses) one by one, with facts:
    -    "I'm looking for a job." Is that true, really? How often is s/he checking classifieds and job sites? In the meantime, is s/he volunteering so that s/he can make contacts, and can account for any gaps in his/her resume?
    -    I can't afford a place." Is it that your child can't afford a place, or that s/he can't afford a place as comfortable as your place?
    -    "I want to save up for a house, car, grad school, etc." This is probably the most legitimate reason to stick around at home, but only if your child is accountable to it.

3. Treat your child like a person renting a room
    -    Collect rent.
    -    Lay down rules about noise.
    -    Consider not providing meals.
    -    Set standards for cleanliness.
    -    Grant him/her some privacy.
   
4.    Be firm. This is the most difficult part. If you've done a comprehensive job of laying out the rules and specifying consequences, it's essential to follow through.

do you agree ?!